"A woman has to love a bad man once or twice in her life to be thankful for a good one." ~ Mae WestOkay listen!
This brings me to tonight’s topic. As much as I hate that I’m admitting this, I have been single since 2010. Don’t feel too sorry for me quite yet. I have had a string of unrequited and confusing relationships over the last year in a half. So many that I wouldn’t be able to recall them all. As Valentine’s Day quickly approaches it dawns new light on why I and most of my peers are still single. Personally speaking I have dropped the ball in selecting an adequate partner, enter my “quick list”. A list of “Types” to avoid or in my scenario to never go back to…
*The Anti-Social Type
*The Cheap-Ass Type
*The Liar Type
*The Booty Call Type
*The Hider Type- The guy that enjoys meeting your friends and family but never introduces you to his.
*The Indecisive Type- This guy can’t make up his mind if he wants you or not.
*The Game Player Type
*The Lazy Type
*The Online Dating Type- This guy emails, texts and calls but never meets you in person.
I have actually dated every type that is listed above. The world has changed when it comes to love, romance and relationships. It has become a war zone out there! Now I’m sure most of you are thinking that I’ve lost my mind or seem bitter. Not the case. Love REALLY is a Battlefield. It’s a war out there and I’m loaded with hand grenades and shot guns! I have learned to be prepared. Danger and ambush are lurking at every corner and I refuse to settle or be taken down!!!
As a Generation we have completely dropped the ball. We work our asses off at our jobs and even when it comes to friends and family. When it comes to dating we are lazy!! What happened to building a relationship based on communication? We can’t even pick up the phone to call the one we are interested in. We text, and mostly so because its convenient and lazy. We are also jaded. Men, have you ever spent a good deal of money on a woman at a bar hoping/assuming you are getting “in” or at least a number at the end of the night? Then come to find out she plans on going home with her friends and you are left with a smile and a bill. And women, have any of you spent 2 hours getting ready and looking fierce to meet up with that guy you have been interested in for months, only to find out last minute that he cancelled plans? If you are single the odds are stacked against you. Men tend to see some women as “crazy” and possessive. This is due to the D-bags in YOUR species that stand us up, play games with us, lie to us because its easier than being honest and play with our emotions. And women, the reason some of those fellas are playing those games is due to the stuck up, skinny bitch who is more concerned with getting her hands in his pockets than “returning the favor”, so to speak.
Wouldn’t it be delightful to not have to play the game? Not to assume but to know what the other person was thinking and feeling? Me too!! Until then I remain locked and loaded.Feb 13, 2012